There’s lots of advice on how to handle the issue of an ex when starting a new relationship, but let’s keep to the basics for now. How do you handle an ex on the first date?

 

1. Don’t talk about your ex on a first date. Simple enough, huh? Well, it’s the biggie. Never bring up an ex on a first date.
2. Do acknowledge an ex if directly asked. Some people go so overboard with number one that they come off way too secretive. It’s fine that you have a dating life previous to this person, or otherwise you might seem very unappealing.
3. Don’t go into details of your breakup. It’s fine to acknowledge your ex if asked, but no gory details are needed about your breakup. Look, hardly anyone comes off looking good in a breakup. If you say it was terrible and you hate him/her, then you seem a bad risk to date. If you say you’re still close friends, then it sends an alarm that you two might simple be on a “break.”
4. Don’t cry when “your song” plays. If you can not control your emotions regarding your ex, and an old song, scent, or turn of phrase is going to make you lose control like a hot dog does Patty Duke, then don’t go out. You aren’t over things, and you need some more time.
5. Do try something new. Most breakups, even when the other person seems entirely at fault, are at least 10% your own fault. With that in mind, do not start your new relationship the same way you ended your last. Did you always go for dinner and a movie? Try something new, such as an amusement park or museum. Anything that breaks up your old routine is probably a healthy experiment.

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Even if your ex had given you an engagement ring, you shouldn’t dwell on the past too much if you’re looking to date. Your new guy could be the one you exchange diamond wedding rings with, or may even get loose diamonds so you can make choose your own!

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