There’s nothing wrong with having out-of-date musical tastes. In full disclosure, most of my favorite musicians were born before my parents. Still, there is something to be said for having interests beyond fifty-year-old rock stars.

Melissa and I met in college. She worked at the college library and seem to be quite intelligent. She read a lot, and talked a lot about reading. Yes, obviously there is more to intellect than that, but then again, it isn’t like I have an IQ test on ready at all times. So a girl who actually bothers to read, and bothers to read more than Danielle Steel, seems like a good bet for at least a passively interesting conversation. Not always so, as Melissa taught me.

Melissa and I started dating and things seemed very good at first. She was funny and a fair bit more outgoing than I, which is a good thing. As a more reserved person I need someone who can step it up to pull me out of my cave. She was also short, cute, and perky–the killer three for men, and a disgusting three for other women. (more…)

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Andrea was someone I dated while in graduate school. She attended a different college where she played basketball. She was tall and good looking, but I think slightly out of her mind.

We met online, and talked for a couple of weeks before finally meeting. During this time, I learned that she had recently ended a serious relationship because the guy was not interested in settling down. Not a good sign that she’s on the rebound, but not a bad sign that she’s interested in settling down. I’m no mother hen, but nor have I ever been much of a “player,” as the cool kids are so fond of saying these days. Regardless, she seemed pretty excited about going out and I have to admit–so was I.

We finally did meet and go out a couple of times. Dates were good. She was pretty. I was charming. She said I was basically the perfect guy (I don’t let such flattery go to my head–most days). Things seemed to be going really well until she called me up one day and said she was too busy to go out. I know as well as anyone that “too busy” often translates into “too uninterested.” Still, no rule is universal and things seemed to turn on a dime pretty quick. I decided to give it some time and see what came of things. (more…)

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